New Year, New Love: Use Your New Year's Resolution to Meet Your Match

"One's destination is never a place, but a new way of seeing things." – Henry Miller

Is finding true love in 2023 at the top of your New Year's resolutions?  But what if your approach to New Year's resolutions is hampering your progress? What if you are focusing on the wrong things?

Before I met my husband, my New Year's resolution was to find true love. Every. Single. Year. And, year after year, I failed. It wasn’t until I reevaluated my approach that I realized why.

Why your New Year’s resolution to find a great partner isn't working

My New Year's resolution didn’t support me in achieving my goal. It was too binary.  Most of us are obsessed with outcomes win or lose, success or failure and New Year's resolutions are no exception. Whether the goal is finding true love, getting promoted, or publishing a book, we focus on the result. 

That was certainly true for me. Each year, either I won the love jackpot or it was back to the dating trenches.

What if, instead of resolving to find true love, you shift your focus to improving your dating process? What if you commit to dating more, setting better boundaries, and say no to men who will never be a fit?   Your goal may not be guaranteed, but the journey will be more fulfilling.

Choose a better dating resolution

Identify your dating challenges

Start by looking at your dating life. What's work? What isn't working? What would you like to improve about dating this year?

• Are you stuck in dead-end text conversations?
• Are you attracting the same type of person over and over?
• Are you struggling to meet high-quality partners?

Focus on actions and mindset

It's easy to fall into the trap of focusing on what you want others to do differently.  But change starts with you.  Ensure your dating goals focus on what you want to get better at, what you want to learn, or what kind of dating experiences you want to have in 2023.

• What can you do differently?
• What changes can you make to date more efficiently and effectively? 

How do you have to be to achieve your dating resolution

American society focuses on action and doing.  But, often change requires considering how you are being as well as what you are doing.  So, examine not only your actions but also your mindset. 

Set SMART goals 

Set Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound goals. Focus your efforts and ensure that your goals are achievable. 

Hold yourself accountable

While it's easy to be motivated in the beginning, how can you ensure that you stick to your commitments when life gets busy? How will you hold yourself accountable?  Who will you ask for help?Ask for help

One effective way to be more accountable is to ask others for help.  One client set a goal to go on two dates per month. She asked friends to donate $5 to her favorite charity every month she achieved her goal.  The donations were a powerful motivator for her to achieve her monthly dating goal. Another client schedule dinner with a friend after each first date. Even if the date didn't go well she had dinner with her friend to look forward to. 

As you enter the new year, say goodbye to binary goal setting and set a goal that will support you in finding a find a quality romantic partner.  Make this the year that you find true love. 

 Did you set a New Year's resolution around dating? Send me an email and let me know!

 Good luck!

About Me 

Hi, I’m Rachel Simeone and my coaching practice is dedicated to ensuring that successful professional women, just like you, achieve the same success in their romantic relationships that they have in their careers.

If you find yourself struggling to achieve your New Year's dating resolution, I can help.

As a coach, I understand that each person's journey to a great partner is unique. That's why I offer customized coaching plans that take into account your individual needs and situation

Together, we will work towards uncovering the underlying patterns and beliefs that may be holding you back from finding the relationship that you are looking for and we map out a plan that is tailored to you.  I will be there to support you every step of the way.

Don't let another year pass without finding the love you deserve. Schedule a free strategy session and begin your journey toward the partner of your dreams.