I found love and you can too! Here is my best advice.

Ten years ago, I thought my life was pretty good. I had a career that I enjoyed in marketing. I had been with my partner for 17 years, and if the relationship wasn’t perfect, I had something that I thought was more important than perfect, commitment.

Unfortunately, a family tragedy made clear what I had stubbornly refused to acknowledge, that my partner and I were incompatible. We were both deeply unhappy in the relationship and no amount of compromise or couples counseling was going to help.

Which is how I found myself single and dating at 47.  

I had to learn how to date again.

In the beginning, it wasn’t easy to figure out online dating and I made a lot of beginner mistakes. But with time, I realized that the same skills that had made me successful in my marketing career could be applied to dating.

Setting up an online profile is similar to setting up a direct response marketing campaign. You identify your target and then develop a compelling offer that attracts responders. Messaging on an app is similar to pre-qualifying a sales lead.  

A dating system made finding the right guy much easier

Leveraging my dating system, helped me feel more empowered throughout the dating process. I no longer felt beholden to my date’s expectations or desires. I began to date in a way that suited me. Dating became less of a chore. Icing on the cake, I fell in love witha wonderful guy.  

I found my purpose

I started helping friends and then friends of friends leverage the same process that I had developed to help them find a great relationship. A relationship that was worthy of them. Just like me, these were professional women who wanted to achieve the same success in love as they had in their careers.

I didn’t consider coaching full time at first, I  just wanted to help other women be happy. Eventually, as demand grew, decided to go back to school and get certified as a coach.

Today, I am excited to announce my new business – Rachel Simeone Dating and Relationship Coaching.

My approach is different from other dating coaches and experts. I’m not going to suggest that you try to better understand men or twist yourself into a pretzel pretending to be something you are not.

What I do is help successful professional women develop a strategic approach to dating that makes the hunt for true love easier and less stressful.

Using a combination of marketing and coaching, I empower my clients to navigate the dating process with greater confidence and success.

My coaching program is unique in that my clients not only get personalized coaching to eliminate each client’s unique dating challenges, but they also get support and guidance from someone who understands the unique needs of professional women.

Leaving the security of a high-paying job for the unknown world of running my own business wasn't easy.  Similarly, taking the first step of going from being single to a healthy relationship might feel like a big hill to climb.

One way to make that climb a little shorter is to avoid the mistakes that I made when I first started dating. There are five common mistakes that cause problems for professional women when they embark on the journey to find true love. These are mistakes that I made and they are mistakes that most of my clients make.  

Here are 5 dating mistakes that I made and how I overcame them:  

1) Looking for the magic key or secret formula

There is no one right way to find your ideal partner. No dating app or singles event exists that is going to magically deliver the right men to you. You will have to try a number of different things until you find the approach that works best for you.

This can be frustrating, yet it means that if you’re not having success with dating, it’s not because you are doing something wrong, but because you haven’t yet found your path. Not being wrong means that you can stop blaming yourself and focus on finding the way that works best for you.  

2) Listening to your resistance.

If you want to accomplish something in your life there are going to be times when you are going to have to do things you don’t enjoy. There are going to be times when you don’t want to go on one more date.

It’s perfectly logical to feel that way. There are always things that aren’t fun that are required to achieve a new goal. But ask yourself, was every moment that you spent climbing the corporate ladder fun?

As you have no doubt learned throughout your career, the difference between success and failure is how quickly you push through the things you don’t enjoy. Fighting against the things you have to do, but would prefer not to, just wastes time.  

3) Not leveraging the skills that make you successful in your job when dating.

As a professional woman with a good career and full life, you are likely treated well at work and by your friends. This should not change when you are dating.

The men you are dating are not college students or 20-somethings trying to find their way in the world. They are men who have had prior relationships, children and successful careers. Careers where they had received coaching, mentoring and management training. You know this because you have attended similar sessions with men just like them.

These are men who know how to act like civilized human beings in their daily life. If they are inconsiderate or disparaging to you, they made a choice to be so. How would you handle a colleague or employee that is rude to you or doesn’t respond to your emails?

There are many reasons why a person chooses to behave badly, and as you know from your experience at work, usually the reason is that there is something wrong with them, not you.

It’s the same when you date. There are plenty of men out there who aren’t able to show up in a way that is worthy of you. No need to spend time wondering why, pick up your toys and find a better sandbox to play in.  

4) Giving into despair

I muscled my way through the dating process because I was determined to find my Mr. Right. And while determination is important, so is maintaining your emotional equilibrium.

I lost valuable time wallowing in disappointment and self-pity. I know now that I would have found my guy faster if I had someone to support me through the process. Someone to help me stay focused on my dream.

Have you ever noticed that many of the most successful people, whether they excel in sports, or business or the arts, have coaches, therapists and mentors who help them?

What do these people know that the rest of us don’t? They realize that an objective third party, someone who understands the challenges that you will encounter as you try to achieve your dreams, can help adjust the little things that make the difference between success and failure.

Whether you are trying to reach the next level in your career, train for a marathon or find true love, you need a way to stay focused on your dreams even when you are ready to give up. Sure, you can try fighting your way through with determination and grit. However, sometimes the difference between having a dream and achieving a goal is the help we ask for along the way.

It took me a while to realize that there was a better way than muscling through. And, when I decided to start my coaching business, I realized that if I wanted to help women, the first step was to get help for myself.

To achieve my dream of ending the cycle of self-doubt and unhappiness that many professional working women face when they are looking for their Mr. Right, I realized that I needed help, support and motivation. I have a wonderful business coach, a lawyer who I love, and a top-notch accountant who are helping me to turn my dream into a reality.  

If you’re feeling stuck

If you have tried everything that you can think of to find a real relationship with someone who is worthy of you, but still haven’t been able to find your Mr. Right, I am here to help.

My coaching practice is dedicated to ensuring that successful professional women achieve the same success in their romantic relationships that they have in their careers. It is my goal to help my clients find the same love and happiness that I have found with my partner Erik.

We often need a little help and support to make our dreams a reality. If you are ready to make your dream of finding your Mr. Right a reality, the first step is to book a free dating strategy call. On this call we’ll discuss your needs, dating priorities and how we can partner to design a customized dating strategy that will empower you to find the relationship you desire quickly and with less emotional toll.

About Me

Hi, I’m Rachel Simeone and my coaching practice is dedicated to ensuring that successful professional women, just like you, achieve the same success in their romantic relationships that they have in their careers. Through my signature coaching program, you will learn how to escape the misery of awful dates, meet better men and accelerate your ability to find a great partner.

Check out the program to learn more about how we can partner to develop your custom dating strategy to the right relationship.

To get started, schedule a free dating strategy call.  On this call, we’ll identify your dating goals, establish your dating style, and discuss a dating strategy that will empower you to find the relationship you desire faster and with less emotional toll.