Before you hire a dating coach ask yourself these 4 questions

Most people don't wake up one morning, go into the kitchen to make a cup of coffee, and think, I need a dating coach. But, let’s imagine that you did wake up this morning and decide you needed a dating coach. Before you power up your favorite device and Google “dating coach” or “dating coach for women”, I recommend that you ask yourself the following questions. 

Take a moment to sit quietly, connect with your inner wisdom, and then reflect on the following:

What are you hoping to achieve?

Most people can point to something they want more of or less of in their lives. Life and dating coaching is a process that closes the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

• What is that gap for you?
• What is that gap for you in dating and relationships?

Coaches take their clients on a journey of self-discovery and help their clients identify concrete ways to move past the obstacles that have stalled them in the past. The process allows clients to move, more efficiently and effectively, toward their desired outcome.

What are you trying to achieve in your dating life? In your current or future relationship?

This hope/dream/goal is what you will work to change when you work with a dating coach.

Are you open to change?

Life or dating coaching doesn't have to be hard, take a long time, or cost a lot of money. But it does require you to be open to looking at things differently and examining the beliefs that may be keeping you stuck. It also requires you to try new approaches and change up the way you do things. It may also mean stepping outside of your comfort zone.

Perhaps most importantly, when you start working with a dating coach you want to sure that you believe that you can meet someone for a loving, long-term relationship. Are you willing to accept that past performance is not an indication of future success? Are you ready for that?

Are you ready to change your relationship with dating?

One of the ways that coaches help our clients close the above-mentioned gap is to help them get into a positive mental state so that they can accomplish their goals more efficiently and effectively. That mindset is an important factor in successfully achieving your goals has been proven in numerous studies.

Yet, many women feel discouraged, confused, frustrated, and unempowered when it comes to dating. Well-meaning advice from family, friends and other experts is often contradictory, confusing, and, well, unhelpful.  

Are you ready to stop being discouraged and confused? To take back your power and date more effectively and confidently? 

What are your concerns?

Do you have any concerns or doubts about working with a dating coach? Now is the time to identify them so that you can share them with your coach. Coaching relationships are best when both sides are transparent about their needs and their doubts.

Ready to hire a dating coach?

Once you’ve spent some time on these questions you are ready for the next step in hiring a dating coach, finding and vetting several dating coaches. Why several? Because while professionally trained coaches all follow a similar process, you are going to have the best results if you work with a coach who is a good “fit” for you.

Most coaches offer free sample or chemistry sessions. These sessions will allow you to share what you would like to accomplish with your coach and for the coach to give you a taste of what working with them will be like. After the free session, both the client and the coach have the opportunity to evaluate the chemistry between them and decide if they would like to work together.

If you are ready to schedule some sample sessions with several dating coaches, my post The Best Dating Coaches for Women lists the top dating coaching for women.   If you prefer to try self-coaching before jumping in with a dating coach, here are some dating resources that should help!

Another way to find high-quality, professionally trained coaches is through the International Coaching Federation (ICF). The ICF is a global organization for coaches and coaching. It sets standards for the coaching profession and provides independent certification to ensure that coaches meet the educational and ethical standards of the organization. You can find a list of ICF-certified coaches on the ICF site.

Good luck with your dating coaching adventure! Let me know how it goes!

About Me 

Hi, I’m Rachel Simeone and my coaching practice is dedicated to ensuring that successful professional women achieve the same success in their romantic relationships as they've had in their careers. Through my signature coaching program, you will learn how to escape the misery of awful dates, meet better men, and accelerate your ability to find a great partner.   

To get started, schedule a free dating strategy call.  On this call, we’ll identify your dating goals establish your dating style, and discuss a dating strategy that will empower you to find the relationship you desire faster and with less emotional toll.